She Asked Me To Dance For Her Husband.

I've been teaching sensual dance for several years now. Usually when we kick off the beginning of class the women have a variety of reactions to coming into their Untamed essence. However, there have been times when I get a reaction that pulls my heart right out of my chest. Immediately I have to stop the class and address the issue at hand. Why? If you're taking a fun and sexy class why can't it just be that? Well, It can be. What I've learned from experience is that most women who are seeking out sensual dance classes or pole dance classes are truly in search of something deeper than just a fun and sexy experience, even if on the surface they don't really name it. 

We are called into the dance space because their is something within our bodies + our psyches that is ready to be healed. The rift between being connected to our divine femininity and aligning ourselves with society's vision of a "good woman" come head to head in our relationships, our desires, our work life, motherhood, friendships and more. We are called to the dance floor to indulge in a literal stripping of all the layers that prevent us from being raw, naked and receptive to our most divine self. 

So in class one day after we'd done our routine and split into groups one of the women speaks up :

I'll just hire you to dance for my husband because I can't move like that. 

The room went silent. Though she may have felt alone in that moment, she was not alone in that experience. The pain lingered in the air as I stepped forward to remind each woman in the room that there is no need to compare our sensual expression to one another. The light that shines forth from within our souls as we dance untamed in our feminine essence only adds to and enhances that of each and every woman that we encounter. The only way for it to detract is if we allow our perception of ourselves to disconnect from our truth. What is that truth? That we are enough. That we are worthy. That we are beautiful. That we are whole. That we are desired. That we are loved. That we are needed.  These things cannot be changed no matter what our circumstances are in life. 

So many women have come through my classes with this exact same mentality. They can't see themselves as sexy so they only see that irresistible factor as something that exist outside of themselves. That's where jealousy comes in. That's where the fear of being left swoops into our minds. That's where intrusive flashbacks start taunting us. That's where we give up on trying because we're caught up in the pain of the past and the anxiety of the future vs. the gift of being present to our ability choose how we will move forward.

Sexy isn't somewhere OUT THERE. 

Sexy is within you. 

This is the very reason why my classes are built to guide each woman towards the practical spiritual tools that she needs to combat the residue of insecurity that creeps up for all of us from time to time. 

The Shamelessly Sexy Masterclass is designed to help women re-awaken jaw dropping bedroom body confidence. 

Now what is bedroom body confidence? 

It's feeling irresistible in your body with the lights on or off. 

It's not getting stuck in the rambling thoughts in your mind that keep you from connecting with you partner. 

It's not saying no to intimacy because you're self-conscious about the way your body looks. 

It's finally being able to take it to the next level with your new love interest on your terms. 

It's being gentle with yourself physically and emotionally when insecurities rise up and knowing how to handle them with ease. 

It's seeing your value and your worth so clearly that you stop seeing "flaws" and things that need to be fixed and just revel in the beauty of being in your skin. 

Join me for my upcoming masterclasses 

Chicago 10/8

Atlanta 10/29 

New York 11/19 

San Francisco 12/10 

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Rashida KhanBey Miller